I must have realised that forgetting is special and being able to do so is difficult. It’s not a question of forgetting about something or someone, it’s essential sometimes to forget in order to live in the present and move towards your goals. It is not about no longer having attention for a person or a thing. It is not about ignoring something or someone. Indeed, one can ignore, ignore or ignore, while thinking about it. It is not forgetting.
In my opinion, forgetting goes much further. Forgetting is no longer and not having that thing or person in your mind. It is like taking an eraser and erasing memories, or drawing a line under something, a situation, a person that you no longer want to have in your mind.
We know of many contexts where forgetting is involuntary. Who hasn’t forgotten milk on the stove? Who hasn’t forgotten a birthday? Who hasn’t forgotten to answer an e-mail? Who hasn’t forgotten this or that object when leaving home? These cases of forgetfulness are a daily occurrence for all of us, because everything seems to go at full speed, but can we want to forget voluntarily and how can we do it?
We may wish to forget situations or people that generate in our mind a state that does not suit us (stress, pain, waiting, …). As the same causes induce the same effects, there is in my opinion only one way to forget. It is to keep away from these situations and or these people who generate or embody these causes, and this in any circumstance, whatever the real, material or virtual context. For example, in a previous post I talked about the value of objects. Getting rid of objects that belonged to someone else contributes to forgetting. Another example may be to no longer be connected with that person. Yet another example may be to no longer agree to participate in this or that situation. Another example may be to ensure that you are no longer in the presence of such and such a person or, conversely, to ensure that these people are no longer in your presence. The images of these situations or persons will then fade away by themselves with time, and all the more quickly as you know how to build other situations and relationships. Oblivion will set in permanently.
What you want to forget (IF THAT IS YOUR CHOICE) requires that there be no compromise, no arrangement, no cheap negotiations with yourself. In other words, IF forgetting situations and or people is your choice, then you must do it yourself, and in any case do not ask situations or people to do it for you. In short, do it yourself, but don’t ask anyone to do it for you. This is the price to pay for not looking back and for moving forward towards your goals with peace of mind.
Einstein said, «madness is behaving the same way and expecting a different result ».
In conclusion, I would be remiss if I forgot to wish you all a good start to the 2019 school year!