Currently a clerk in the tidying up of a number of places from a past that is still very present. I remember the situations. I sort to keep or throw away “objects” that belonged to someone Other than me. No matter how close I was to this Other, these “objects” were his (handmade, purchases, gifts…) and not mine. So, what to keep and what to throw away?<\/p>\n\n
I had been dreading this task for months because it seemed extremely difficult. It is not the physical effort that I dreaded (you don’t have to be Arnold to do it). It was not the time effort that I was dreading either (I took time off for that). What is difficult is the mental effort it takes to grasp each of these \u00ab objects \u00bb and decide on their \u00ab future \u00bb. These \u00ab objects \u00bb are not mine and I respect them all in the name of the Other. They are full of memories.<\/p>\n\n
The \u00ab objects \u00bb are of essential importance. The Other who is no longer present (for whatever reason – mortality, rupture, …), continues to exist also through these \u00ab objects \u00bb. The Other has chosen them. He expresses himself through his choices. These \u00ab objects \u00bb are in fact only a set of representations, visual anchors of the Other, that we can no longer see, touch, or talk to. They therefore touch us \/ speak to us in the present tense and could influence our state of mind.<\/p>\n\n
The human mind needs these anchors (the \u00ab objects \u00bb) to be accepted or rejected, and the more sincere the relationship with the Other, the more these \u00ab objects \u00bb will be preserved. These \u00ab objects \u00bb will be all the more numerous to be preserved when the relationship with the Other has been reciprocally sincere. They will be all the less numerous, or even non-existent, to be preserved the more the relationship with the Other will have been an illusion. We will then get rid of them by getting rid of the \u00ab objects \u00bb that are cumbersome for the mind.<\/p>\n\n
In order to remember the past, while living in the present (in order to build a future), it is probably necessary to show a certain \u00ab emotional pragmatism \u00bb. Moreover, if this applies to the objects of the material (the tangible), they are only echoes of the objects of the immaterial (the intangible)… This is the reason for the quotation marks…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
It’s amazing how many things we can accumulate in our daily lives. I assume that each of these objects refers to a situation that makes sense at the time the person gets them. Don’t be surprised if I put the term \u00ab objects \u00bb in quotation marks in the rest of my talk, I’ll explain.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":230817,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_et_pb_use_builder":"off","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[13],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-230970","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-news"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n